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Relationship Rookie of the Year

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Bonnie Burton
12:28 PM ET (US)
yeah i think i'm finally starting to understand all this dating stuff.
most importantly, I'm finally being myself again...

it's all trial and error.
by the time i'm 80, I should be ready for marriage. heh. ;-)
12:23 PM ET (US)
Boody oath, Bonnie, did you actually read those rules? You should worry constantly about losing your attractiveness, don't ever "nag" him (that is, express opinions or needs), and if he acts like a total jerk, give him "space" and complete forgiveness? Were they written by a 1950's housewife? A masochist with no self-esteem? The ladies who wrote The Rules?

If you have to work that hard, it wasn't meant to be, and the boy is probably not worth it. btw, I was a late bloomer but have enjoyed 8 wonderful unmarried years with my guy. Be yourself, and love, if it is love, is easy.
05:51 AM ET (US)
the only rule in LoVe
is that there is no rules in love...
Bonnie Burton
11:00 PM ET (US)
Hi Jen!

Yeah I totally remember Matt Sebastian! He was one of my favorite people at Campus Press! Right on! Tell him hi for me... and thanks for your kind words.
They do mean a lot. Even if I feel like I'll never find the right guy...
10:41 PM ET (US)
I think you are entirely too hard on yourself. Do you feel that you need a relationship to make you happy? Is it the marriage of your other friends that makes you feel as if there's something wrong with you? Well... that would just make you a part of the herd, wouldn't it. There is nothing written in stone that says you must meet and marry. Consider yourself a free-thinker who does what she wants when she wants. If you're waiting for "the right person"... then you haven't yet found yourself. You have a great site and I'm glad I stumbled across it. I humblely offer mine:
09:30 PM ET (US)
Don't worry Bonnie. Once you find the right person you won't have to worry about this list of advice. You just have to relax and enjoy being by yourself and good things will come to you. Just live your life on your terms. I know you have probably heard this all before but it happened for me ... and you may remember my guy, my husband, my best friend ... Matt Sebastian from the Campus Press at CU-Boulder. Go Buffs.
11:48 AM ET (US)
I like that list. Even us men break all those rules sometimes.
04:18 AM ET (US)

it is a puzzlement, a great puzzlement as to why BB isn't hitched by now.
bonnie burtonPerson was signed in when posted
02:08 AM ET (US)
i hate it when i read relationship advice that makes me feel like an even bigger chump...