Cory, you're new link seems to be dead.

Lisa, that sounds perfect --very much the way my friends and I will remember. For me all those private acts of sorrow and appreciation that accumulating into one giant public act of sorrow symbolized us as a nation.

And it reinforces the point---remembrance should be private, not some dog and pony show thought up by the polititians or the networks in a jingoistic tribute to our national ego.