framing is different from linking: it loads the page into your browser

To clarify, "framing" is a complicated dance.
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The browser asks the server for a document.

The server may return a document.

The document may contain a frameset

The browser may request the document(s) referenced by that frameset from their respective server(s)

The server(s) may return those documents.

The browser may display them.

At each step of this process, there are free choices made. Some people use browsers that don't do frames. Some servers won't return a document referred from another server. But the act of constructing a frameset does not load anything into anyone's browser.<p>
When you decide you want a page on the World Wide Web, you are implicitly agreeing that, in general, linking is a Good Thing. That's what makes it a Web. Exceptions to the rule are the burden of those who wish them. If you don't want to be linked to, then don't be linked to. <p>