Don't have a ton of sympathy for the victim here. Security at airports is tight. Really tight. There was this whole Sept 11th thing yeah? So security has been tightened. It's actually, as Cory points out, way way not tight enough. There does need to be some consistency in the process. That will come with training. It's new to everyone and people should be patient and work with the system.

The guy who got all hot and bothered and was called a menace? Sounds like he was a menace. Remove him from the situation and deal with him offline. Let traffic flow.

The woman who got all bothered by being asked to strip naked or what not. Here's the solution if that comes up: say, "No. I'd rather not do that." They'd ask why not you'd say you're embarrassed they'd take you to a side room or behind the security screens (that they have at my airport anyway (RDU)) and do the thing there. If they don't for some reason, then pick up your carryon and turn around and leave. No one forced anyone to strip.

Much ado about nothing anyway