Phil and Kay, thank you very much for the postings. I love a good controversy!

   The way I see things is somewhat different. Marriage is THE oldest human institution, established before states and religions. It had many forms throughout the ages, but the purpose remained the same. To guarantee the wellfare of women and children. Today this may seem "Politically Incorrect", but the fact remains that a great number of people, perhaps the majority, agree with that definition. Some women may not Ned someone to guarantee their wellfare today, but most men still believe that it's their duty to provide it.

   In other words, "marriage" is a contract between two (or more) people guarantying the wellfare of their partners and offspring. Let us remember that Americans are not the only people on the planet, and that there are others who accept same sex marriage, polygamy, and many other forms of marriage. Their acceptance does not make them immoral or evil, simply different. Surprisingly enough, all these forms or marriage are dictated by some state or religious dogma.

   I believe that partners to a marriage should be 100% sure of their commitment before they make it. If that involves cohabitation before the commitment, so be it. Let's keep in mind that it is not only the partners who are involved, but their nearest and dearest. That will be fine, provided that there are no children involved. Once a pregnancy or a decision to adopt is realised, the contract must be made official.

   What makes a marriage contract official? Any legal method to achieve the purpose of it, be it legal, political, religious, or any combination thereof.

   I disagree with the concept of defining the partners to a marriage by religious or governmental rules. Our concern is the wellfare of partners and children. If religious morality insists on word definitions, then let us call the "other" unions something else, but provide the same protections reserved for those "moral" unions. Another thought would be to try to convert people to our way of thinking, instead of trying to "legalize" our position.

   I agree that a prenuptial agreement would be essential in any such union, and a specific clause should be included to specify how children will be handled in the case of dissolution of the partnership. Adults may make many mistakes and face the consequences, but should not force children to bear the burden. Let them make their own mistakes when they grow up.