Re: connecting on deep levels, being vulnerable, and such seems to be a trait some find essential for satisfying relationships in the church. Looking at this closely makes me wonder why we find this needful. Can't we be satisfied simply relating with people at the level they are capable of giving of themselves? I dare say most people do not start out deciding to "hide" from their brothers and sisters, but rather give of themselves as they feel comfortable. My comfort level may not be the same as yours. Connecting on a deep level takes time and trust. It cannot be made it happen - it occurs when brother A is comfortable with brother B and vice versa. I wonder if we ought rather relax and enjoy one another and accept what we each can give to the relationship. I believe we would then (a) enjoy one another more, (b) be blessed by what our brother does share with us, and (c) be more satisfied with what we do find in the Body.