I agree with you Jack. I think that we (as a whole) don't connect on very deep levels. The fear of being vunerable is very real. The thought of someone taking advantage of us or abusing our vunerability is very real. I have been in a large church were the relationships were very surface, nothing deep and meaningful. We all worked for the 'greater good' of the organization. Heck, we didn't even have time to fellowship. We were too busy in meetings, training sessions or..well, more meetings! The thought of letting down our walls was unbearable to think of. Even the thought of someone seeing my faults or weaknesses was absolutely taboo.
  Do you know what? I have come to think that often our relationship with the Lord can reflect on how we relate to others (not exclusively) But, when we are not entering into deeper levels of intimacey with the Lord, how are we going to connect with others on a deeper level. There is an intimacey problem with God's people. And it starts with us connecting with Him in a deeper way. Then our relationships with one another can have the chance to reflect that.

I long for meaningful relationships. Thank God I am now in a place where I am able to give that to others and recieve it. God brought me to a church where I have been able to connect with people and enter into true 'covenant' relationships. People see me as I am and I see them as they are. No pretense, no pretending. Just living real Christianity in front of real people with out the fear of being rejected. It's very freeing.