I attend church on a regular basis, minding my own business, working with children occasionally. A lady in my church became ill with cancer and soon moved into my neighborhood she had 2 children, a teenage daughter that was 14 and a son that was almost 8. The daughter had a live in boyfreind that was also 14. The mother allowed this because the daughter kept running away. We lived fairly close to one another and I noticed the little boy outside alone until late hours in the night - being concerned for the childs safety and thinking I could help a member of my church I befriended my neighbor. I found out the teenage daughter was leaving with the boyfreind and returning late at night if at all. The child was almost left on his own, I prayed extremely hard about this and God led my to step out and spend time with this child. I would invite him over to help me pick up pinecones in my yard then I would pay him $1 and take him to the store to spend it. To make a long story short I began to Love this child - this mother and her family left the child in my custody. We cared for the child like our own. We have a teenage daughter who was 14 at the time and there was some adjusting. The mother died after several weeks of the child in our full custody and I tried hard to contact the fathers family to let them know I had the child. (the father had passed away less than 6 months prior. The mother did not have a good relationship with this estranged family. The paternal Gradmother fought our Family in court - we won the court case. This Grandmother died less than 1 year later. My situation at this time is the fact that we have the childs blood "family" mambers that are trying to corrupt this child - his sister puts a huge burden on him to try to make him feel guilty if he won't drop ALL his activities to spend time with her when she is in town - I felt sorry for her in the begging but she only wants him "alone" - I find this extremely disturbing and I confronted her and let her know if she can not spend time with us as a family then she doesn't spend time with him alone. I have her on video when she was on drugs at a public event. I am responsible for his safety. The adults in that family fear this teenager - she threaghtens to commit suicide if they don't bow to her every whim. I am normally VERY nice but I feel responsible for the saftey and well-being of my son and I believe God placed him in our home. There is also an adult that has insight on the grandmother's estate and she is an ex-wife and is constantly harrassing me for visitation. How should I handle this? In the past my child confided in my the secrets this woman kept from the grandmother and that she spoke awful things about her. i don't want him corrupted this way and I know God gave my Boldness and courage to stand up to the sister and I pray often that when she shows up I ca stand firm and be cosistent. Any ideas on how I should handle the ex-wife would be apprciated - Please pray for our family - I know God has a plan for all of us.