Hi! I'm looking for an activity, game, craft, etc...that will teach about respect. Do you have any suggestions? Thanks - Erica

Erica: The best Family Night workbook for your situation would be Ten Commandments. There are lessons on honoring your father & mother; as well as lessons on righteous living. You can order this at heritagebuilders.com, then click on "Our Store". Take care --Kurt Drees

I have an 11 year old son who has graduated from the who cares to talking back. He talks back to us and to his teachers. The only thing I have not tried is spanking Help!!!

In a message dated 9/18/2005 12:52:07 PM Pacific Standard Time, qtopic+29-aTnHdQdwkkXf@quicktopic.com writes:

I have an 11 year old son who has graduated from the who cares
to talking back. He talks back to us and to his teachers. The
only thing I have not tried is spanking Help!!!



First let me say generally speaking, spanking would probably do more harm than good at this stage.
 
Having said that, you haven't given enough information to help me respond adequately with answers. For a young man to get to this stage of rebellion at this age there has to be factors of which I have not been made aware. He is actually at an age where he is the most receptive to your values, and why that receptivity isn't there goes deeper than can be explored in a couple of sentences.
 
If you want to post me privately with more detail, I will gladly respond with any help I can offer. Post to me at _Otis@heritagebuilders.com_ (mailto:Otis@heritagebuilders.com) and I will be in touch. Or there may be others that could benefit from this conversation if you are not opposed to the public forum. Either choice is yours and I wait to hear from you.
 
Regards,
JOL
J. Otis Ledbetter
Heritage Builders


"Strengthening God's Family By Strengthening Yours...
Sonrise Church: A Place Where You and Your Family Can Begin Again!"

I just wanted you all to know that I gave a Parent Report Card from your website to my 10-year old daughter last week and it really did open a brand new level of dialogue. It was fantastic. No, I didn't score as high as I would like, but I could see where she was coming from and it gave me a real hard look as to how she sees me. I want to thank you for posting that on the website. My daughter is filling out a weekly report card on me so that at least once a week I am SURE to hear her thoughts and feelings. Thanks so much.

I noticed that your store has only a few of the family nights heritage books. A few years ago I purchased your family night book for preschoolers. There were also some other titles. Have these books gone out of print? Can they be purchased somewhere else?

Amy: A few of the Family Night Workbooks have gone out of print (including the Preschool Old & New Testament workbooks). You might be able to find a few online by searching at google.com...or you might try our friend Kirk Weaver at famtime.com. I think he has some of the Preschool titles available. Hope that helps --Kurt

What chores do your children do? I have a son who is 16 and for the first 10 years he had no chores, after I married my husband he decided my son needed chores, so my son did everyones dishes every day and night for several years, now that he's older, he has decided that no other teenager has to do chores so why should he. I am aware that this is pretty much all my fault as I didn't give him any responsibilities origanally. Any help would be appreciated. As if that wasn't enough, my son has Aspergers Syndrome a disorder on the Autism Spectrum.

My 9yr old daughter recently told me that she doesnt believe in God any longer after her father was incarcerated for comitting acts of domestic violence against she and I. I believe she is just venting anger right now but I want to make sure I handle this situation correctly. Does anyone have ideas or similar experiences that may help me bring understanding and healing to my little girl? Thank you.

Hi!
Is there a magazine or publication of any type that you send out (without someone ordering it). My friend just got a "small magazine" (her description over the phone) and it had an email address on it that was similiar to the following one (however, the one I am about to list is incomplete and is just part of what she read off to me)www.heritagebuilders.com/weeklyactivities/0000. Does any of this make sense to you? I've reviewed your website and saw the publications you have for people to buy, but didn't see anything that seemed to be a mailout (other than an email newsletter). Can you help me make sense out of this?
God bless!
Peri

Peri,

Good to hear from you. The website address flier probably goes back to when Focus on the Family administered the HeritageBuilders.com website. Weekly activities can still be found at HeritageBuilders.com. Just click on the link directly above the box on the right side that says "Click here for the Godly Parenting Newsletter specials". There will be two Family Night activities listed. There is no charge for these. Let us know of any other questions.

Regards,
Kurt Drees




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Hi i have two boys 5 and 3 I have just got my youngest son back after 2and a half yrs. My eldest son does not want to share me and is not very nice to his brother do you have any tips for us a family to work on building togetherness and everything that goes with it. Iam a Christian have been for almost 3 years and a single mum.
Also can I buy any of the heritage builder products in New Zealand.

Your delimma is a common one to any family of multiple children. I remember bringing our new daughter home from the hospital when our first born was only 19 months. Even at that young age he is thinking the newborn is an intruder. My wife displaying much wisdom, gave the newborn to me and held the 19 month all the way home - for reassurance.
 
Your 3 year old is not viewed by your 5 year old as a sibling but an intruder. Your challenge is to re-identify him to your 5 year old as a full family member and not a gate-crasher. I would suggest you plan some activities that give off the signal that you are of the opinion "the more the merrier." Do activities that would not be successful if there were only one or two.
Reassure your five year old that he has a special place in your heart that no one can replace as does your three year old. Your children - like all other children - will test you to find your answers to these three questions. Do you love me? Are you with me? Will you keep me? Let your actions and conversations drive home the affirmative of these three and in the process you will find a emerging harmony returning to your home.
 

J. Otis Ledbetter
Heritage Builders Association


"Strengthening God's Family By Strengthening Yours...
Sonrise Church: A Place Where You and Your Family Can Begin Again!"

I am a pastor of a small chruch (125) looking to implement HB. I have a full set of the materials form the HB bookstore so I am a bit overwhelmed. The first step seems to be "Building a Herritage: 13 sessions for adult groups" which lays out the whole approach. Since the chruch will be waiting until January to start something new, and several of my families are already hot on herritage building I am not sure that 13 weeks is necessary before they start building. But I wouldn't want them to start using the family devotions and get frustrated. Can you advice me on the best course to take?