I just want to ask for people who have partners with Asperger's syndrome to contact me on this thread and Betty-Ann...what's happened to you? I can relate to all that you have been through and maybe are still going through.

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I am 56 years old and married an as person of 29. I have had my children but now find that i have anothwer one!! We now have separate rooms as he never comes to bed and will stay up all night playing games and shifting on the internet on the not so savoury sites. His room is a dump but i cannot clear it up as he knows when one peice of paper has been moved. As like one of your other people I cannot invite any one around as it so embaressing. He is rude, abusive and agressive towards me and will not listen to one single view that I have. BUT when I met him he was sweet, interesting and spent alot of time with me. Now i am sure that he is happy as long as i cook, wash his clothes and make sure he has money he is fine. I am spending more and more time in my room isolated and very lonely. Yet I love him. But can I live with him much longer?? I wanted someone to care for me and I should have listened to my doctor when he said he was not right for me. What support is there for the partners of as?? If anyone knows please let me know. Take care everyone.

I am quite sure my husband has AS. My 22 year old son was diagnosed a few years ago, and my spouse matches the criteria.
Here are some oddities that I hope someone will recognize and confirm:

He has not touched me intimately in 12 years.
He recently had appendicitis, and the nurses asked me why he seemed overly anxious about every detail and overly sensitive to every feeling.
He has little to discuss except weather and gas prices.
Chores are paramount to his daily living.
I feel he judges me because I do not conform to his standards.
He cannot make a decision without asking my opinion.

Can someone help me?

I'm wondering if my husband has AS. We've been married for 12 years, and it's been constant hell. Sorry. He's intelligent and highly analytical, extremely detail oriented and very socially dysfunctional. He has no friends, and even when I try to have a normal surfacy/factual conversation with him and I ask a "why" question, he'll answer the "what." If I ask him a "how" question, he'll still answer the "what." Most of the time, he is unexpressive in his facial expressions, body language and voice tone, unless it is a subject that he is passionate about. He makes decisions based on assumptions and usually makes the wrong one.

At times when we've been in a store, he whistles from the end of the aisle to get my attention instead of walking up to me to talk. Other times he pushes me from behind to make me keep moving or to get out of the way of another shopper.

We can't even communicate on a deeper level - he has no communication skills to do that. He has no flexibility and gets angry if I don't do even do the laundry and housecleaning on my usual day, or if supper is not served at a specified time. Though I am a Christian myself and I know that marriage is supposed to be forever, I can't do this anymore. I have a physical disability and we have a young school-aged I am trying to raise. When our son tries to speak to him about things he's struggling with, my husband is not socially responsive. He ignores him, or falls asleep while he's talking to him, leaving my son in tears yet again.

Because of the constant stress, I have developed some serious health issues with my adrenal glands, thyroid, ovaries and breasts, and keep having to go for biopsies every six months.

I know that the bible talks about divorce and says it's wrong, but I can't keep living with this stress.

Can anyone help?

I have a friend who I'm pretty sure has AS. I've known him for almost 20 years and for the last 8 years we have been good friends. He is a successful supervisor at a Fortune 500 company. His attention to detail is what got him his position. He has to be detail oriented to be successful at his job. He also has to be an independent worker. His employees love him. I must tell you that most of his colleagues who are White think he is weird, but his black colleagues and employees think he is great because he makes direct eye contact and never makes rude remarks or assumptions about their lives. He does however get angry when someome does not complete their assignments. I usually get the brunt of this anger since I'm the one around him once his shift is over. He tells me he is trying to curb his anger and so far I have noticed a change. Co worker's and friends constantly ask me how I can get him to talk. Its fairly easy, I talk about Star War and Star Trek for at least 15 minutes and then I say "switch" and we talk 15 minutes about something I'm interested in. He seems to be in awe that I will talk about his favorite subjects. Overtime I have found that we do have a lot in common and if I stick to what we do have in common it seems to work. A sexual relationship seems to be out of the question. He is devastatingly handsome but I can't seem to get to first base. If I talk about sex straight out he shuts down but if I put in the context of the Discovery Channel or a article I read, he gets in what I call scientific mode and will talk. I have to later pepper the conversation with things like "what if you and I, that sounds like us, or if something like that happens between us what would you do". Mostly its trial and error. I'm a Qualified Professional in Mental Health so I have experience with Autism ,PDD and AS. He once told me that I invaded his space but I since learned that if I made some of my behavior routine he does not seem to mind as much. I have to be able to sense what is appropriate for him. I make sure I touch him when I say goodbye and hello and then that way he knows what will happen. Now if I don't touch him he wants to know why. He also does not like when I completely ignore him and before I suspected he had AS I would ignore him when he made me angry just as I would any other man. It would affect his mood greatly and it was as if he searched me out to get my attention back. Once I did speak to him again he would be joyful and then later resort back to his flat affect as though he was ignoring me. I do know that he have been married twice but I also know that he is emotionally deprived. He has told me he wants and needs affection but he has said that he was afraid of getting hurt again. I know that if we did have a relationship it would be difficult.

Hi - Just to say that I have contacted RELATE - not for the normal help but because I was advised by the FAAAS site to contact them as they have some literature and books regarding AS. I have read the information they have sent me and it all just confirmed his AS. At this moment, I am still tentatively mentioning going to the doc with him in the hope of receiving some kind of help. My doc has told me that there is little help for adults with AS but she has suggested that I try and get him to visit. Whether this will just mean that he accepts that he has a problem or what, I don't know at this moment. I have to choose my moments very carefully, but this is my next step. I am learning that when he reacts with an outburst, I don't respond in any way. I just sit there. My heart is banging in my throat and I feel quite ill, but within about 15 mins he has forgotten his outburst and we resume to "normality" - well at least until his next outburst. When he goes to work, it is my time to collect myself and try to settle myself a bit. Somedays I feel so affected that I cannot drive. I know the days when I can and cannot drive. As I said previously, I am taking one day at a time. Take care...

Hi - all I can say is that God is faithful to his children and He will help. I do not know how it will pan out, at the moment I am just taking one day at a time. My husband too misreads scripture, he doesn't read his Bible and what he remembers is often taken wrongly, he is a typical Pharisee, everyone has to do what he says but we cannot do what he does and please God. Yes it is very hard. I have to steel away just to spend time with the Lord and precious moments are often spoilt by a harsh word or action blundering across me. This open emailing means I am not permitted to go too deep, but be assurred, there are others who are in the same situation and if you feel like screaming then ssssss ccccc rrrr eeee aaa mmmmmmmm in another new message!