I am 56 years old and married an as person of 29. I have had my children but now find that i have anothwer one!! We now have separate rooms as he never comes to bed and will stay up all night playing games and shifting on the internet on the not so savoury sites. His room is a dump but i cannot clear it up as he knows when one peice of paper has been moved. As like one of your other people I cannot invite any one around as it so embaressing. He is rude, abusive and agressive towards me and will not listen to one single view that I have. BUT when I met him he was sweet, interesting and spent alot of time with me. Now i am sure that he is happy as long as i cook, wash his clothes and make sure he has money he is fine. I am spending more and more time in my room isolated and very lonely. Yet I love him. But can I live with him much longer?? I wanted someone to care for me and I should have listened to my doctor when he said he was not right for me. What support is there for the partners of as?? If anyone knows please let me know. Take care everyone.