Hi - Just to say that I have contacted RELATE - not for the normal help but because I was advised by the FAAAS site to contact them as they have some literature and books regarding AS. I have read the information they have sent me and it all just confirmed his AS. At this moment, I am still tentatively mentioning going to the doc with him in the hope of receiving some kind of help. My doc has told me that there is little help for adults with AS but she has suggested that I try and get him to visit. Whether this will just mean that he accepts that he has a problem or what, I don't know at this moment. I have to choose my moments very carefully, but this is my next step. I am learning that when he reacts with an outburst, I don't respond in any way. I just sit there. My heart is banging in my throat and I feel quite ill, but within about 15 mins he has forgotten his outburst and we resume to "normality" - well at least until his next outburst. When he goes to work, it is my time to collect myself and try to settle myself a bit. Somedays I feel so affected that I cannot drive. I know the days when I can and cannot drive. As I said previously, I am taking one day at a time. Take care...