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Tip on how to keep a Job with having Asperger Syndrome

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Bry
06-08-2013
01:55 PM ET (US)
Hi, I'm 21 and I think I have Asperger's. I was never formally diagnosed. Only at school, college and my first few months at university, I was given extra tutition with a Speech Therapist. I passed my driving tests and have been driving nearly 3 years now.

Reading into Aspergers and Autism, I am showing alot of the symptons i.e. obsessed over objects etc, not good at communication however I can talk to people on social networks and meet them. As well as various other things.
However, now I'm in the big world I have already lost 2 jobs and about to lose my 3rd. I'm very worried that this will continue as its effecting my personal life at home. My GP has referred me to a Autism/Asperger's expert in London, I'm deeply worried that I'll be put in a hospital or worse. Thanks for reading
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Henry
05-22-2013
08:21 AM ET (US)
I always lived near green spaces. My childhood was spent at my grandmother's garden and when i was a teenager i lived near a park. Now that i'm an adult, i don't know exactly what happened but i live in a very unhealthy environment as Dr Kovak describes it in his latest book.
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Mallory
07-29-2012
10:40 PM ET (US)
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racheldemi2
07-17-2012
01:12 PM ET (US)
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Laura
02-01-2012
10:19 AM ET (US)
Dear Lloyd
My son is 19 years old with Aspergers and he did attend a driving school program. It cost around $900.00 and he still failed his drivers lesson with the State of Massachusetts. I feel your fear. He would go out with my husband and I driving but always make mistakes that would definitely cause an accident if he were alone. Your right about transportation. I'm looking into it myself.
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Lloyd
01-31-2011
11:35 AM ET (US)
It looks like my wife and I are not alone. We have a 25 yr. old son with aspergers. He held down a part time job working for/with me in a sheet metal shop.It worked out great for the two of us. He was a great worker. Worked hard and was learning a skill. I lost my job last week, and in turn my son lost his. We're heartbroke for him and don't know how to help him. Anyone know of a program that can help him find a job and help with transportation? He does not drive. I'm scared to death to send him to drivers training. But that's a whole nother subject. Thank you.
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corrina carfizzzi
11-08-2010
07:25 AM ET (US)
Is there any young adults out there who have aspergers? My son is 20 and is having a difficult time with girls and school and we have no support groups for this age group ?
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Shannon
07-11-2010
03:58 AM ET (US)
I have a wonderful job. I was hired two years ago. I work in a medical records office. ... filing, organizing data, remember names, locations of files... the whole nine yards... but I struggine with my communication skills. It takes me some time to process (or to try and understand) what is said, and sometimes I need additional clarification. People look at me funny as if it's so obvious what they are saying. But I am a concrete thinker, see things in black and white, and take things literally. I haven't really be diagnosised with Asperger's but it is something my psychiatrist has told me to look into. So, I've been searching website and reading all I can on the web about it. I'm not sure what catagory I fall into- seems to be high functioning... but I have other things too like ADHD and bipolar. They all seem to overlap in areas. So, sorting through it all is hard. But some of the asperger's symptoms and characteristics make sense to me and has helped me understand the whys and wherefor's of my past and my childhood. I remember living in my own little world and still do feel very comfortable there. When I have an incident at work that causes me a great deal of stress, I freeze. My mind races with thoughts... and then again, I can't think for all the random thoughts.

I am very detailed oriented, but in school when doing those reader programs, I had difficulty following along and knowing what the main point was. I could tell you all about the details but never saw the big picture and still have a hard time seeing the forest for the trees.
Anyways, I haven't said much to encourage anyone... just expressed some of my experiences and thought processes and wondering if I do have some form of it going on in me that has affected my work. I've been written up several times... not let go as I was told I'm a hard worker. There's not many places that will bend over backwards to work with a person with some disabilities. But I've bee upfront and I have to take the responsibility of caring for myself cause no one else will. I'm 49 years old and was just told this information about 4 months ago. I find the fact finding very exciting and confirming to my behaviours. Thank you, Shannon
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Birdie Bryan
08-21-2009
09:45 AM ET (US)
Hi,
    I just discovered this website. I have a 30 year old son with Aspergers, and he has worked since he was sent home from college in 98'
He has experienced about 98% of everything that you all have. He was not fired from his last job, but was left hanging in limbo...not fired, not laid off, but banned from the workplace he had worked at for 10 years by a third party. The only way to resolve the issue was to follow some free lawyer advice and let the Dept of Labor decide. They found in my son's favor...so far so good (still some anxiety as one never knows how a former employer will decide how to behave).
   My son has major ups and downs. When he is less burdened with anxiety and stress he does really well, but when his thought-life starts to spiral down, he has a hard time pulling himself back out. I have learned to mention funny things (my son has difficulty recalling funny memories)such as funny memories and funny movies (comedies, silly veggie tales songs and such) in order to get him to laugh, and then the brain-lock and total shut-down starts to melt off and within a few minutes to a half-hour my son resurfaces out of himself. I don't understand why his therapist hasn't figured out the humor-angle yet.
    I am exasperated with most of the medical staff and the amount of times they have changed his meds (and without oversight to the side-effects). Paxil really messed him up. Wellbutrin seems to have quieted down his OCD a lot, but anxiety now has replaced the OCD.
   I am so glad I found this site. Wow, thank you whoever posted this website.
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corrina
06-11-2009
07:09 PM ET (US)
Hi my 19 year old is in the same situation / he was fired from his last job also. He has a passion for cars and hopefully will do something with that.
I know my son is only 19 but my findings from other people with children in this situation is child care for one they are great they have like minds communicate extremely well. my son loves to drive a fork lift in the warehouse he just started a new job and his very happy is making $20 an hour with benefits and insurance he likes the routine with no pressure. Most of us with this are very happy doing our own thing some draw some are massage therapist some walk dogs/the world is not ready for these high function individuals. but i do know when the look in side there heart and find what makes then sing they do much better .
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Donna Pohl
04-29-2009
04:55 PM ET (US)
Hi all. Well, the topic here is exactly what I was looking for since I have a 23 y/o son who is rocking the same boat as those I've read about here, but I don't really see any tips. We've been dealing with this since he was born actually, and it seems the fight will never end...Help! We live in Virginia; my son got a certificate from Woodrow Wilson Vocational School (in Customer Service-no less!) I told them when he went that wasn't the way to go, but "they knew better than me". So now, after quitting 2 jobs because the square peg just doesn't fit in the round hole, we're back to square -5 (this is destroying what little self esteem he had managed to gather. *shakes head* Suggestions and tips would be greatly appreciated.
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NG
04-11-2009
05:01 PM ET (US)
Hello, I have had asperger's syndrome for the past 10 years. I have difficulty holdingo onto a job as I usually end up making a misktake and then get fired. What are the best jobs for people with Asperger's Syndrome and what are the worst jobs ? What types of things do you do in your job to help you cope with time management, organization, and planning ? Has anybody been through any therapy and does it really help ? How do you explain to other people your disability.
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AC
04-11-2009
04:49 PM ET (US)
Hello, I'm going through the same situation as most others on this board as a person diagnosed with AS and having troubles with work/job issues.

I have not been "officially" diagnosed with AS but I know in my heart that I have it. I've always been extremely shy, have had very little friends and was often labeled "different" and "weird" by my family, peers and classmates while growing up and still today. I still dread attending some family functions and some social activities with the few friends that I have.

Anyway, I got fired last year from a really stressful job as a clinical trials monitor (CRA), which looking back, it was probably for the best. That job required alot of travel (which was difficult for me since I still suffer from panic attacks when having to fly on airplanes, driving over bridges and driving through tunnels) as well as the ability to train and have strong communications with clinical trials staff employees (including doctors, which CRAs were required to correct and train, which was also very intimidating for me), all of which I was terrible at doing. I thought I would initially be good at this job because it always requires extreme organization and attention to detail, which I've always been good at maintaining but ultimately it wasn't enough to save my job.

But I still can't help but wonder what I could have done better to avoid what happened. But a part of me knows there is probably nothing I could have done to change that situation, it mostly had to do with having AS and the characteristics associated with this condition that makes keeping a job sometimes difficult. Fortunately, I was able to find a new job rather quickly after getting fired however I'm facing some the same issues as my old one and fear I may lose this one as well. My boss says that I work too slow and I know she thinks I'm very weird because I'm very antisocial at work. But I often work late at night to get my work done (because it takes me longer to grasp how to accomplish an assignment) and I think she sees how hard I work and that's why I haven't been fired (yet). But the possibility always remains.

Some issues I've had to deal with at the job that make work difficult include having trouble with multitasking and trouble with generalizing things. I've always excelled when dealing with specific tasks that have very specific rules attached to them for accomplishing the one main task at hand. I really enjoy technical writing and writing instructions for accomplishing routine work tasks and have written several mini "manuals" for our routine office tasks and my boss said these were pretty helpful but still this is not enough to "get by" with her.

My passion has always been public health and I'm trying to figure out the best profession at the field where I can combine my passion for helping others (without having to interact directly alot with them) and my passion for writing about public issues and creating instructional documents related to public health issues. It's too complicated to figure out all at once now but I'm slowly getting there.

In the meantime, I'm definitely going back to school to earn a masters in public health degree and am thinking about pursuing this full-time since I'm so burnt out with work and all that it requires with the constant deadlines, following up (which I still have great difficulty with doing) and then the constant required socializing, which has always been a major source of frustration and anxiety for me.

I'm just trying to keep the faith that somewhere out there is the perfect job for me and other Aspies who face these same job difficulties. Good luck everyone.
Edited 04-11-2009 05:01 PM
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Carol Stromek
03-29-2009
04:07 PM ET (US)
Just an update to my posting of 2007: I am now on full-time disability, due to major depressive disorder (which seems to be much better now that I am not struggling to fit in to a dysfunctional workplace all the time). My two psychiatrists, primary clinician, acute clinician, and (reluctantly) my job counselor all agreed that I could not fit into a work situation with my Asperger's plus major depressive disorder. I ended up getting into screaming matches with my supervisor because I would not "name names" when they wanted me to rat out on my co-workers. Management could not understand I had a code of ethics I needed to adhere to. I ended up having suicidal ideations (thoughts of killing myself) as the job demands grew more intense; I was NOT able to handle the rapidly increasing stress levels that affected all levels of my hospital.

(I was also dealing with abnormal levels of spinal pain at the time; the steriod injections I had - series of 3 epidurals - probably was the last straw in destabilizing my emotional state).

The good news is that now, 11 months after my last breakdown at work, I am relatively happy, much healthier, and working towards improving my mental health in a proactive way. My psychiatrist has me taking 400 mg of 5 HTP Tryptophan + B complex in aditional to my psych meds, and I have been able to reduce my anti-depressant from 300 mg/day in May 2008 to 87.5 mg /day in March 2009. We are also trying reducing my modd stabilizer (Zonegram) from 300 to 200 mg. I must add that I have been on a GLUTEN-FREE diet since October 2006, and I think that this greatly affects the success of my treatment: I now ABSORB my medications and supplements. If I have even a little bit of gluten, my mood de-stabilizes.

I am a practicing Buddhist, and find that the discipline of meditation and prayer form a big factor in my peacefulness and stability. I would be "lost" without it. I utilize the techniques of radical awareness (Tara Brach) which is based on Buddhism; this helps me cope with many day-to-day stressors.

I do have panic attacks at the idea of returning to work; my doctor has assured and re-assured me I do not have to do so.

I'm sorry I can't provide a magic bullet for those of us with Asperger's and other mental health issues to enable us to fit into the work world. Of late, the business world has become MUCH less tolerant of any people who question authority and do not tow the line. Deviation from the norm is simply not acceptable. This makes fitting in even most difficult, if not impossible.

My suggestions would be to find a job in a small, private bookstore, or a small private store or office that MIGHT, I repeat MIGHT be able and willing to adapt to our different way of thinking.
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02-18-2009
09:56 PM ET (US)
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Angela Mayes
11-11-2008
09:33 AM ET (US)
Please help me. I am a 40 year old woman who believes in her soul she is an "Aspie". I have almost every diagnostic problem listed on the psych evals available on the internet. I have always been labelled "wierd". My sister goes with me to meet new people because she guides the conversation so I understand the new person and they understand me. She is my interpreter, I guess. People are exhausting for me. I am constantly having to make sure my facial expressions convey what I am trying to say. I still get it wrong, though. People tend not to trust me because they "feel" something isn't right. When I get a new job, employers start out thrilled thinking they have just found the goose that lays the golden eggs, largely because of my vocabulary. They put the "off" messages down to nervousness at a new job. But within a few weeks, they are dumbfounded at my inability to grasp things everyone else picks up on immediately. Some employers have extended a normal two week training period to three months and end up firing me or demoting me because I only grasp the higher functions of the job. For instance, at Burger King, I was the Shift Manager. I got the managerial duties just fine. But I didn't get the hourly jobs, like how to make the sandwiches. And I am SLOW. I still fail to see how I could have been faster. I did my best. I would have to ask the same questions every day. It is very frustrating to know that I am going to go in to work today asking the very same questions I asked yesterday, and to know they know I will too. They get frustrated that I can't seem to remember the answer to that, but I sure can remember the combination to the safe after doing it once, or that I can remember every cash transaction on my drawer for an entire week, but not how to make a certain burger that I've made a thousand times. I was written up repeatedly and I finally just quit. I have only been able to last about 3 months at any job.
I have no friends. Mostly it's because I am so outspoken. If I see hypocrisy in a person, then I'm done with them. It's like a worm that infests me. At first it just irritates me to see the difference between their words and their actions. But very quickly, I shun them because I can't stand the dichotomy. What I perceive as honesty, others perceive as rude. I've even started friendships off by telling them I have Asperger's and explaining what it is, thinking they will cut me some slack if they know up front what is wrong. But it doesn't work that way. They still expect me to be like everyone else. So I guess I don't get to have friends or jobs.
Please contact me with some advice, help, anything. My email is: QueenAngie_2005@yahoo.com
Thanks in advance,
Angela Mayes
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