I am tired of the notion or seeing things that put in peoples minds that black women are of lesser value. The misinterpretation is that black men don't want her and neither do white men or men of other ethnic groups. And every time we document interracial relationships it's always black men and white women. We need to document more white men and black women. Black women are equally valuable and need to be seen as such. If black women were more open to interracial relationships, they would find that white men and men of other ethnic groups are just waiting for an opportunity! The fact is, I have witnessed many black men say they prefer a black women! People like what they like for whatever reasons. Bottom-line is, if we just drop all our walls and just allow ourselves to be attracted to whoever we wished; we would find that majority relationships would be interracial. We need to maximize our opportunities to find a life partner and make life friendships. We minimize our opportunities by staying in our little corner(segregated). "There is someone for everyone" but if we allow race to be our wall; we will never know what's on the other side.

Hello,
I have just stumbled across this website and found it interesting. I am a young well educated, professional, black woman who is married to a white man. I am extremely happy with our relationship. I did not choose him because of his race but because of his heart. I am tired of people portraying black women as being less than or jealous of white women. I love who I am. I love where I come from and the future that lays before me. I dont care if a white women dates a black man because they must make each other happy. The relationship of a stranger does not affect my personal life. I hope that the world can get to a place where all people are viewed as being beautiful and equal. There are more crucial things in the world to think about than why one race is better than the other. I have many beautiful white friends as well as beautiful black friends. Beauty and attraction can be found in more ways than just skin color.

Hi here how are you? I am newbie in www.quicktopic.com so i hope i will get some friends here :)

Has this documentary been released yet? If so, where can I find it?

Hi, I just came across your blog having done a google search on my name. I am writing to ask that you please remove your article entitled "The Black Gender Gap in the Classroom" by Caille Millner. This article contains a "quote" attributed to me during my sophomore year of college--a statement that I never made. I have already spoken with Ms. Millner about removing this inaccurate "quote" from the article and about removing the article from the web altogether. Both the tone and content of the statement attributed to me are completely against how I feel (both then and now) and the fact that these words are still floating around in cyberspace truly bothers me. Please remove this article from your blog. If you have any questions, feel free to contact me directly at nji1979@yahoo.com. Thank you. Ken Ebie

Hi,
Seems like you two are pretty far along in your process. If interested in perhaps a collaborative effort creating a more comprehensive film on race and relationships please contact me at mlee99z@gmail.com. I am Asian American and our big issue is Asian/Asian-American Women and white men.

Edited by author 07-25-2006 07:05 AM
Xu Shan's Memories of Prenatal Period:
The discovery of a Spiritual and Cultural Prototype of Human Beings Published

Xu Shan: Memories of Prenatal Period: The discovery of a Spiritual and Cultural Prototype of Human Beings (Chinese edition, 2002, New Star Publishing House, Seoul, Kerea)

Xu Shan
(1)Professor, Dept. of Chinese, Suzhou University, Suzhou 215006, P.R.China. M.A. 1987, Nanjing Teachers' Univ; Ph.D. 2002, Shanghai Teachers' University.

(2)Blog: http://blog.sina.com.cn/m/xu_shan

(3)Works:
1.Thunder-God Worship: The Origin of Chinese Culture, Shanghai Joint Publishing House, Shanghai, 1992;
2. The Origin of Chinese Language, Sichuan People's Publishing House, Sichuan, 1998;
3. Xu Shan's Selected Papers on Chinese Language, New Star Publishing House, Seoul, 2002;
4.Memories of Prenatal Period: The discovery of a Spiritual and Cultural Prototype of Human Beings, New Star Publishing House, Seoul,2002;
5. Research Papers on Chinese Ancient Characters, Chinese Literature and History Publishing House, 2003;
6. Xu Shan's 1000 Short Poems, Cozy House Publisher, New York,2004;
7. An Analysis of the Structure and Words of The Book of Changes, China Bookstore, 2005.

Abstract
The affairs the author had experienced in a week's time after Jan. 29, 1996, impelled an important turn in the author's thought. With the study of stories (A huge Dinosaur lays eggs, etc.) and dreams narrated by my daughter (6 years old, born on Jan. 25, 1990) as well as the author's self-hypnosis, it has been made clear that the starting point of human beings' spirit originates from memories of prenatal period, of which the strong marks and influence left in personal history and mankind's culture can be observed. To take memories of prenatal period as a new angle to survey extensively the history of human beings and the creations of our mankind's souls, a lot of hard-to-understand riddles have been deciphered. The discovery of memories of prenatal period turns over a new leaf in the field of life sciences, and makes an important step in the fields of psychology, religion, dream culture, literature study, and traditional culture and ideology.

Contents
Preface
We want to reopen the story of the beginning of life. I want to know what I am and why I am so. Fortunately an opportunity has come at last.

1. A Huge Dinosaur Lays Eggs
Everyone seems to be unable to recall his own things in a period of time after birth, not to mention birth itself. The story "A Huge Dinosaur Lays Eggs" on January 29, 1996 and the subsequent dreams narrated by my daughter S (6 years old) as well as the author's self-hypnosis show that we do not forget memories of prenatal period related with personal life that begins at the instant parents' sperm and egg have been united, which will reveal in a particular mental state.

2. The Properties of Memories of Prenatal Period
The beginning of life is the first experience of death. The survival way of fetus depends on mother. When individual life begins, its sense organs start to work and store in memory. Umbilical cord trauma brings about the greatest mystery in one¡¯s life. The corresponding psychological feelings at five stages during prenatal period. The wishes to return to mother's body and the operating features of entering memories of prenatal period.

3. The Reappeared Forms of the Spiritual Prototype of Memories of Prenatal Period
Everyone comes from prenatal period, and memories of prenatal period are sure to reappear in varying degrees at the different stages of life. Many important phenomenon of human culture, which people are still puzzled about, have been vanished with the help of a spiritual prototype of memories of prenatal period.

(1)An Exile from the Garden of Eden
The theme and structure that Adam and Eve expelled from the Garden of Eden in Genesis of Bible are based on memories of prenatal period. The Christian concept of original sin is derived from the logical explanation of umbilical cord trauma in memories of prenatal period, and moreover, reaches the rational height, which is unique in human culture, of criticizing human nature itself, that is, people have their evil sides.

(2)Nirvana
Nirvana, the highest realm of Buddhism, can be arrived at through meditation and self-enlightenment, the process of which is that first of all, one returns to memories of prenatal period, and when it is finished, all of one's memories are cleared away. The void that has been seen with eyes closed at this moment (we name it as "void memory") is nirvana. The rational core of nirvana is to wipe out completely the psychological bed of fear by void memory associated with memories of prenatal period, and to re-lay one's psychological cornerstone. The outlook of transmigration is a misunderstanding of the deformed phenomenon in the returning-style memories of prenatal period.

(3)In the Face of Death
Tibetan Buddhism's famous work The Tibetan Book of the Dead has been re-interpreted, the theoretical basis of which is nirvana and transmigration. The process of dealing with death is an art.

(4)Near Death Experiences
The psychological process of returning to memories of prenatal period in near-death experiences is that the tunnel is a necessary threshold into mother's body with quiet and joyful feeling in it.

(5)So-called Previous Existence
When returning to memories of prenatal period in hypnosis, one's own memories of prenatal period is misunderstood as other's things, that is, so-called non-self present existence but self¨Clinking previous one.

(6)The Phenomenon of Qu Yuan
As a unique human tragedy, suicide is a trap of memories of prenatal period in a sense of primitive killing which one falls into at a low ebb of negative psychology, and at last one is defeated by inner fear.

(7)Peach-blossom Springs
The prototype of Tao Yuanming's Peach-blossom Springs is a happy memory of placenta in memories of prenatal period. The physical -psychological features in the motivation of his retiring from political life.

(8)The Words of Pop Songs
"Mom" theme evokes a complex about returning to mother's body. "Happiness and misery", the bipolar feelings of love theme, are the easiest to activate a complex of parents, and then raise the "life and death" experience in memories of prenatal period.

(9)Mandala
Circle is called as mandala in Sanskrit. The mandala seen with eyes closed marks an entrance onto memories of prenatal period. The traces of mandala in my early poems.

(10)An Analysis of My Daughter's Other Dreams
The other features of wishes to return to mother's body in children's souls as well as dreams are pointed out by an analysis of my daughter A's 12 dream cases from August 1996 to September 1997.

(11)A Reanalysis of Some Dreams in The Interpretation of Dreams
Freud's The Interpretation of Dreams is a classic for dream study. Freud held that children's dreams were simple, and meanwhile he was unable to obtain the overt examples of children's memories of prenatal period; therefore his theory of dream was impossible to touch memories of prenatal period as human's psychological bottom, and some dreams could not be accurately analyzed. Using the framework of memories of prenatal period after the new study of 10 dream cases in The Interpretation of Dreams, the relationship between memories of prenatal period and dreams has been clarified so that Freud's deficiency has been made up.

(12)Jung's Collective Unconscious
Jung's abstruse concept of collective unconscious can be replaced by a clear one of memories of prenatal period that everyone has. An analysis of Jung's dream at the age of three or four ,of which he had been thinking hard all his life, shows that memories of prenatal period has an important influence upon the psychological development of human being.

(13)The Initiating Experiments of Memories of Prenatal Period
Returning to memories of prenatal period should go through the threshold of visual image like a cave or a tunnel. The details of the psychological activities during returning to memories of prenatal period were observed after the "cave-or-tunnel" experiments I had designed to trigger off memories of prenatal period.

4. An Analysis of Classical Taoist and Confucian Works as Two Mainstays in Chinese Traditional Culture
With the psychological perspective of memories of prenatal period and interrelated void memory, the four books, Lao Tzu, The Analects of Confucius, Chuang Tzu and Mencius, are reviewed that the purport of China's traditional culture is to advocate kindheartedness, freedom of humanity and peaceful, tranquil society, with which to contend with all kinds of fear.

(1) Lao Tzu
The experience of fear in reality. Taoism, and memories of prenatal period and void memory. Taoism and God. Non-action and non-contention.

(2) The Analects of Confucius
The ideological core of Confucius is humanity and ceremony. Humanity is the ultimate affirmation and expectation of human beings. Confucian outlook on God. Confucian view on history. Confucian self-cultivation. The golden mean as an orientation of value in contradiction and opposition.

(3) Chuang Tzu
The goblet statement, important statement and fable. An analysis of 7 chapters of inner articles, chapter by chapter and section by section. With the features of memories of prenatal period, Chuang Tzu guided the individual, interpersonal relations, and relations between human and nature in order to achieve the mankind well-being of personal freedom and peaceful society.

(4) Mencius
Mencius' anxiety and happiness. Mencius' view on human nature. His historical view. Preserving the vast breathe. Grasping the mean and adaptable in tactics.

5. The Resistance to Fear
Fear accompanies birth, but people wish to live on the principle of happiness.

(1)The Threefold Origins of Fear
memories of prenatal period, the unfavorable nature and the interpersonal survival competition. Our attitude.

(2)Parental Responsibilities
The sacred bounden duty of parents to the next generation. Parent's own physical and mental health influences the next generation. Good prenatal and postnatal care, and early family education.

(3)Free People
An individual life is essentially free. People must think, choose and survive independently. Two major footholds of the free people in modern society are democracy and science.

Afterword
The discovery of memories of prenatal period as an origin of human's spirit, turns over a new leaf in the field of life sciences, and declares that the book, namely human itself, can completely understood at the ultimate level. We should thank mother. We should thank the universe. The creation and practice of a formula "Freedom = Love".

Appendix
(1) The sketch maps, which my daughter S drew in a total of 4 pieces on the morning of February 1, 1996, show the story of a pipe narrated by my daughter S.

(2) The sketch maps, which my daughter S drew in a total of 15 pieces on the morning of September 21, 1997, show the story of a fearful huge monster narrated by my daughter S.

(3) The record of questions and answers on dream between my daughter S and I ,(on the evening of October 24, 1998; the morning of October 25, 1998; the noon of October 25, 1998; in a total of three times) and my daughter S' free talks on the topic of dream.

My daughter S' answers and free talks at the age of eight years and 9 months, show a cognitive level of children at that age ,and help us grasp fully the features of children's psychology.

Thank you as usual for your honest views Denise, and thank you for granting us an interview for TABOO. I respect your right to your opinions as this is America, and always honor your frankness.

However, how do you account for the fact that race does not scientifically exist and is only socially constructed? One country's "colored person" is another country's "African." Have you ever done a DNA breakdown of your bloodline? You might be surprised. Very few people are pure anything. Clearly there are myriad issues around interracial relations because of our joint master/slave history in this country and deep rooted institutionalized racism. However, I am still unclear about your unfounded fears regarding "race mixing" and consistent generalizations around race in general.

So sorry for the double posts. I forget to be smart sometimes. :-)
And I wanted to add - I'M LIKE A MILLION TIMES THINNER THAN I WAS WHEN I WAS INTERVIEWED. JESUS.
MY SPACE

Edited by author 05-17-2006 11:12 PM
Been too long since I've debated, clarified or stirred up the self-righteous anger around here, eh? Truth is, even an old byrd like me can find new and wondrous things this world has to offer. NO!! My views/opinions regarding racial mixing have not changed in any way. I still firmly believe we are all made the way we are, to add what it is we are to add and that the generations of careful, educated and intentional breeding by our forefathers is something too PRECIOUS AND TOO "FORGOTTEN" in our current state of fear - excuse me - POLITICAL CORRECTNESS.
What has changed - as I'm sure you're all ANXIOUS to know is my faith. Powerful, life-changing, soul reviving faith in gods and godesses the Roman Empire and it's instrument of terror - christianity - very nearly made extinct. As a devout Christian my entire adult life - as an avid and obsessed researcher of the new testiment and "christ," having the truth - MY TRUTH - shown to me in ways I could not deny - well, for those who have found their religion/spirituality - you know the impact and confusion I first experienced! For those still seeking - KEEP SEEKING! Until you can say "none of it makes sense to me" and believe those words, live that statement with all you are - SEEK! READ! LISTEN! LEARN!
There is only one thing I am truly sure we all, as humans, have the ability to respect another for - and that is true conviction. Your relationship with your god/gods/godesses/nature/nothing.....THAT IS WHO WE REALLY ARE AND HOW WE REALLY WANT TO LIVE. Politically correct terrorism and the idiot box have deadened our minds and our hearts so much that we either fear to be who we are or we don't know at all.
I am a racial woman. I believe that my Nordic blood is precious and that my mission on this earth is guided by Odin and many other nordic gods and goddesses. THESE ARE MY GODS. JEWS HAVE THEIRS. ARABS, HINDU, SATANISTS...... I was given my life - a gift and my gods do not judge me for my failures. The failures teach what I am to know and when it's time to know it! My gods are also those of war. Valhalla and eternity with Odin is for the purest warriors alone. To die of disease or old age will never raise you to Valhalla. I was made to be the best. I am an Aryan woman who has been blessed with healthy, proud children - I am also a deadly warrior to all who seek to destroy my brethren, my heritage, my land, MY SPIRIT. Such a double edged sword, eh? To find such peace inside my soul - such perfect peace is found in the knowledge I WAS PUT HERE TO DEFEND - TO FIGHT - TO DIE! My forefathers and mothers, my kinsmen, my gods and godessess are beside me - in my battle. OUR battle. I hear often that I am a seriously crazy bitch. No fear of death or pain is my only explaination. My skein is tied, my future, my past are written. DO YOU UNDERSTAND??? In finding your soul's truth, you find LIFE'S TRUTH! YOUR TRUTH!

Yes. I believe the mixing of races will only achieve the extinction of many, many cultures. I believe YOUR VERY OWN hatred of me - or is it fear? - is the result of too much television, too much yellow journalism and too much UNWILLINGNESS TO DO YOUR OWN THINKING! TV says what's cool to own or wear - your newscaster of choice tells you what is important - or what they want you to know - even your god damned preacher tells you what "god" is really telling you in the book that YOU WERE TO INTERPRET! (Anyone read the bible? for real? yeah. right.)
Yes, I am a snob. Self-righteous, arrogant and opinionated. But GOD DAMN IT! NOT ONE SINGLE PERSON EVER TOLD ME WHAT I KNOW AND BELIEVE. I listened. I studied. I mused. I agonized. HAVE YOU?
Is there yet a single person here who will admit what is truly going on in their heads or hearts. Blah, blah, blah. YOUR SPOUTING OF THE CURRENT PARTY LINE IS SICKENING AND INSULTING TO ANYONE WHO PARTICIPATED IN THE MAKING OF TABOO WITH THE HOPES OF MAKING A DIFFERENCE! I answered my questions with complete honesty so ANYONE WHO LISTENED would understand who and what white racialists live and believe. My son, who is not a national socialist, provided insight into what it's really like growing up in a racially aware and active household.

WHAT DID YOU CONTRIBUTE? PLEASE.

TELL ME.

THE TRUTH.

If we do it right, maybe Abbe - and the world - will move from darkness, and fear into a place where we can all walk proud and do I dare dream) be who we are, able to celebrate our heritage freely - no matter where our bloodline began!
Damn it.
Obliterating any of this earth's cultures YES! I said ANY! - would be such a loss to all who follow.
How can you not feel my need to fight. Where is your pride in your forefathers and their history?
Damn it.
Am I speaking another dialect or is there just no one out there who really has the balls to listen to me?
I hope neither is true.
denise1488@yahoo.com
justdenise1488 on AIM

Thank you.

Been too long since I've debated, clarified or stirred up the self-righteous anger around here, eh? Truth is, even an old byrd like me can find new and wondrous things this world has to offer. NO!! My views/opinions regarding racial mixing have not changed in any way. I still firmly believe we are all made the way we are, to add what it is we are to add and that the generations of careful, educated and intentional breeding by our forefathers is something too PRECIOUS AND TOO "FORGOTTEN" in our current state of fear - excuse me - POLITICAL CORRECTNESS.
What has changed - as I'm sure you're all ANXIOUS to know is my faith. Powerful, life-changing, soul reviving faith in gods and godesses the Roman Empire and it's instrument of terror - christianity - very nearly made extinct. As a devout Christian my entire adult life - as an avid and obsessed researcher of the new testiment and "christ," having the truth - MY TRUTH - shown to me in ways I could not deny - well, for those who have found their religion/spirituality - you know the impact and confusion I first experienced! For those still seeking - KEEP SEEKING! Until you can say "none of it makes sense to me" and believe those words, live that statement with all you are - SEEK! READ! LISTEN! LEARN!
 
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Stigma not racism related

In his Letter to the Editor on Monday, Clinton McClure expresses his belief that the reason why there is a stigma attached to interracial dating in the black community is that blacks delude themselves into believing that all white people harbor prejudicial feelings toward blacks. This statement is completely off-the-mark. I, along with several of my black friends, would never date a white person and can assure you that it has nothing to do with believing these people are all racists. My preference is derived almost purely from a reflection of the culture of the place in which I was raised, and it is not merely a foolish belief that white people are all evil. It’s offensive for McClure to assert that black people who do not support interracial dating only do so because of a lack of understanding of the situation at hand.

McClure concludes his argument by stating that race is not the central issue to be debated when debating interracial dating, that it is gender wherein the heart of the problem lies. He says that black men feel “emasculated” because of the advances in professional fields that black women have made and asserts that if black men make the same advances, then they shall “fly right.” This is pure nonsense. I, as a black man, have never, nor shall I ever, see any advance attained by a black woman as emasculating and shall never use such a ridiculous excuse to date a white woman. Such advances are often celebrated in the black community and are rarely if ever seen as emasculating to black men. While it’s true that the genders are still not equal in social standing, this is not a valid reason to take the key issues of race and culture out of the interracial dating debate.

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Crash’: Film exploits political and social disenfranchisement of women of color

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Gender ‘Crash’

Film exploits political and social disenfranchisement of women of color.


While mainstream critics continue to foam at the mouth over the “verisimilitude” of Academy winner “Crash’s” racial politics, the film’s retrograde gender politics have been all but ignored.

“Crash’s testosterone-soaked L.A. is a parable of male redemption forged on the backs of women. By using the picture of a grief stricken black woman cowering in the arms of a white male policeman as the signature image for its newspaper ads, the subtext of “Crash’s” “provocative” charge rests in its exploitation of the political and social disenfranchisement of women of color.

The film’s centerpiece act of racial profiling hinges on the sexual violation of an African American woman (played by Thandie Newton) who then becomes a pawn in the movie’s male redemption sweepstakes. After Newton’s character is molested by Matt Dillon’s racist thug cop at a traffic stop, her plight is effectively eclipsed by her buppie husband’s inner struggle with his sense of alienation and emasculation as a white-identified black man.

The age-old dance between white men and black men for patriarchal control is hence waged over the body of a black woman-while the thug policeman gets to redeem and regain his sense of moral authority by rescuing the hapless black woman, the black producer legitimizes his manhood through a deadly verbal duel with the LAPD in a gratuitous attempt to show how “hard” he really is.

The display of black male “hardness” for the validating gaze of white male authority, set against the “backdrop” of the black woman’s body, is an all too familiar historical “mise-èn-scene.” A cornerstone of the antebellum plantation economy, degraded black female sexuality has not only become one of the most valuable commodities in pop culture but in the media’s eroticized fantasy of urban criminality. The assault of Newton’s upper crust buppie black woman is a not so subtle reminder that black women who aspire to the trappings of domesticated protected white middle class femininity are liable to be treated like just another “ghetto ho.” Yet the film’s retrograde images of passive Asian and Latina femininity also fit squarely into this paradigm of female serviceability and patriarchal control.

In “Crash’s” universe, a female El Salvadoran police detective beds her African American partner and becomes the ballast for his professional and personal travails, while her dilemma of being one of the few Latinas on a notoriously racist sexist police force goes unexplored: a “generic” Latina maid is strategically deployed to validate the bruised ego and self-pity of a racist rich white woman: and the wife of a Chinese smuggler is depicted as a shrill harpy who spews broken English at the scene of a fender bender she’s been involved in. This trio of portrayals bespeaks an L.A. in which women of color have zero political agency of their own. In this respect, the film’s lack of fully-realized female characters is not only a reflection of the overall bankruptcy of Hollywood gender representation but is yet another example of the assassination of the image of women of color in mainstream American society.

The egregiousness of these portrayals is particularly pronounced with regard to the film’s Asian characters. Both the Chinese female character and her husband provide “comic relief” for the voyeurism of non-Asian audiences who have been trained to view all Asians as de facto fresh off the boat others. Their narrative is tacked onto the movie as a coda with a twist that not only emphasizes the mendacity of the immigrant smuggling underworld but implicitly highlights how “out of tune” these old world figures are with core “American” values of freedom and democracy.

After he is hit by a pair of black male carjackers while standing at the door of his van, the Chinese male character is next shown much later in the film recovering from his injuries in a hospital as he is fawned over by his wife. Other than a reunion scene at the hospital, these characters’ screen time is flat and stereotypical. The lack of nuance given to the portrayal of the smuggler, coupled with the shrill incomprehensibility of his wife, effectively dehumanizes the two characters.

The “feminization” of Asians in general and Asian men in particular is a common thread in Western film and literature. Time and time again Asian men are vilified as inscrutable scheming purveyors of hierarchical backward cultures that are incompatible with Western modernity, while Asian women are stereotyped as coy lotus blossoms or sneaky dragon ladies who exist solely to reinforce the heroism and moral superiority of white male protagonists. In one of the most dubious images of the film, a woman who has just been “liberated” by the black male character who discovers her and the other smuggled immigrants in the back of the Chinese male character’s van gazes amazedly at the display of flashy goods in an electronic store.

Shot in the dreary night of an amorphous Los Angeles, the paradoxical implication of this scene is that whatever the barbarous circumstances that brought her to the U.S., this is the land of freedom, democracy, and capitalist plenty and anything is possible if you bootstrap.

Swallowed up into the maelstrom of the big bad city, she becomes yet another faceless voiceless prop in the film’s ethnic arsenal. The larger truth of how women like her have come to comprise the backbone of L.A.’s underground economy is a narrative to powerful for the film’s pat moral of phony redemption.



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