My weekend was good…am recovering from a little cold but all is well. I am so glad to hear the contractions have stopped. I will answer the questions as you asked them. You said:-
 
“1) Adding another man into my life this point ok with the
pregnancy or not will definately make things between me and the
donor more complicated, I think.”……… You are right about that! No new romantic relationships at this time to muddy the waters some more. A friend in need is a friend indeed. Let him know that you are absolutely not interested in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship right now. No intimate trysts, no romance, no on/off again stolen kisses, nada! And keep your word. Give yourself a long stretch of time, from now till maybe the baby turns one, or about a year. Most people can talk the talk but will not walk the walk. Actions speak louder than words. If he sticks around with those set limits in place and does not harass you for more, then the idea of contemplating a deeper relationship could be considered. Don’t be tempted to use him as a source of jealousy and competition for the donor though, let sleeping dogs lie! You sound like a very smart, articulate lady. NO MORE DRAMA!


 “2) Who's to say that two years from now the way he feels today will be the same? Now my daughter has this "father" who is gone because he and mommy don't get along. I would be back in the same place with him as I am with her father now.”…….That’s why you need the test of time in this situation. If after a year he is still around, being a true friend with no benefits, your friendship would have built and cemented your relationship. Don’t be afraid!

 “3) What if the donor decides after the baby is born that he wants to be her father? How does that affect all the relationships? We as her parents will have to do certain things together. Should Ed and I get together how do both of them participate in our lives without it being too complicated?”……….The bottom-line is respect! Develop a sense of self-respect and self-preservation! Both guys will treat you as you see and treat yourself. If the donor decides he wants to be the father no problem, even if Ed is in the picture at that time. With mutual respect on all sides, although problems/issues may arise, they will be manageable. Life for everyone is full of issues, problems, challenges but the most important thing is to be able to address them with logic, wisdom and common sense.

All is well and in my book, your future is BRIGHT!