How was your weekend? Last week was a little crazy. I had to go to the hospital for contraction monitoring. I was a little scared about that but everything turned out ok. I think maybe I was stressing too much and that brought on cramping.
 
Do you remember us talking about what to do if there was another man, well there is a guy. I have known him for a few months, actually before I knew I was pregnant. He asked me out last week. I told him that I am pregnant and he reacted better then I thought he would. He is ok/accepting of it. We went through the is the father involved and all that stuff. Anyway, I found out last night that while the donor was trying to get me to terminate my friend (Ed) was trying to get his girlfriend not to terminate. She did. I am not sure but I think maybe he may be trying to get from me what he couldn't from his girlfriend. I don't want him to try and be a part of my life so he could have the child she would give him. He asked if I was looking to be in a relationship and how I would go about explaining to my daughter that he's daddy (assuming that he will be doing those everyday fatherly things for her) but the donor is her father.

I have several problems with his thoughts but don't know how to let him know without feeling like I am being mean. 1) He will not push her father out of her life. That is for the donor to do himself. Adding another man into my life this point ok with the pregnancy or not will definately make things between me and the donor more complicated, I think. 2) Who's to say that two years from know the way he feels today will be the same? Now my daughter has this "father" who is gone because he and mommy don't get along. I would be back in the same place with him as I am with her father now. 3) What if the donor decides after the baby is born that he wants to be her father? How does that affect all the relationships? We as her parents will have to do certain things together. Should Ed and I get together how do both of them participate in our lives without it being too complicated?

With all that being said HELP PLEASE!!!!!! I don't even know where to start with all of this.