BJB,

Have you written down a list of requirements in a significant other? That's what I'm going to do!

Bonners,

Yeah things are tough, everywhere. Your comments totally mirror my experiences over here in Chicago. Ain't nothing easy nowhere! Maybe its me, though. Its odd how being single makes the crap of our past relationships not seem so bad. Maybe if I got drunk and called her up tomorrow night at 3 am she would take me back??? Hmmmmmmm.

Anyway, hang in there. As my mother always told me, love hits you when you least expect it. (also known as a sucker punch, in other circles)

As to Friendster dates...man, I had the mother of all weirdos (and not in a good way, either). Remind me to tell you sometime. "fuck human rights!!" (her actual quote from the date)..."Waiter, check please!" (my actual quote) Hey! try 'myspace.com'...people are a lot less WASPy than Friendster. I can invite you if you like. :-)

later Kitty Kat!

How come BJB has nobody right now? She seems like an extravert to me... so shouldn't she have more contact with people and meet single guys?

How is it that she isn't she being chased by truckloads of guys?

(Where can I get a queue of nerdy girls (preferably cuddly) for myself? All I seem to get are sexually aggressive women. And how do I get over my fear of girls?)

yeah it could be worse... I could be in the 'burbs. Or in the desert somewhere.

i dunno.
i think being restless makes me seek out drama which in turn makes me attracted to drama queens which in turn messes with my psyche making me wish I was single again.

besides that. I have a novel to finish.
desire just derails me.

Don't sweat it. Love sucks and it comes and goes, puns intended.

My first thought after reading your blog was that it's San Fran. Most guys in San Fran are gay anyway.

Chin up, pride up, confidence up. Something will happen.

Aw, hush BB. You're not even looking, anyway, and from scrolling through your blog, it sounds like you've had a fair share of lovahs along the way. Sure, you recognize that straightlaced Marina guys aren't your bag of chips. Instead, your impulse buy is skanky guys from the same band. We all have our druthers. I know I find myself with a parade (OK, a small, unimpressive queue) of quiet, depressed nerdy girls...

The bottom line is that you have to make a little effort. People in San Francisco are too cool across the board to put themselves out there. I find initiative goes a long way, although I do feel like a creep from a dating show when I try to chat up a total stranger. Come to think of it, I guess I came across your site after seeing your friendster profile in a prolonged trolling session. Nevermind. I know nothing.

in the time i spent in san francisco i didn't observe things neccessarily being all that hard for single people. my only barrier to success was my shyness. but there was a degree of romance about the city itself, and i always felt that intensified the crushes that i would have on women at shows or at bus stops or wherever...i didn't feel there was any lack of exciting interactions for single people, i just wasn't at a point in my life where i was ready to embrace it comfortably. try spending time living in any other city outside of san francisco and you'll see you don't have it so bad!

so what's a single girl to do to find love in San Fran?