Bonnie
I think some peoples judge of character depends on the nice factor. My wife and I do not see eye to eye on this subject. I tend to question while she tends to accept. She is an all to giving person which sets her up to be taken advantage of.I try to tell her not to be so giving to people she has only recently met but she dives right in. Then ends up wondering why the person does not respond the way she does or they wrong her and she wonders what she did wrong. I think it is the Nice factor that leds her down the road to be hurt in the end. If people were more cautious with others before just diving in head first they may find out sooner than later if the person is going to be a positive or negative in their life. There will always be the uncontrollable factor in any relationship and thats when you move forward and forget the past. I mean the past is over done fini so why look that way? learn from it and move on. Happy Holidays All