Do you think you're a good judge of character?

Have any tips for those of us who seem to be reading people wrong?

Am I a good judge of character?
I'd have to say no. But is anyone really good at that?

Bonnie, I'm a good judge of character and I believe that you are a character - in the very best sense of the word. You have a sense of wonder and energy that is truly unique & special. And you can write! That sense of wonder and exploration is probably what attracts you to the mysterious types. You just need to adjust your antennae to tune out the undesirable creatures that appear to be human but are some other undescribed species that are best left in their own worlds. Happy Winter Solstice!

Bonnie
I think some peoples judge of character depends on the nice factor. My wife and I do not see eye to eye on this subject. I tend to question while she tends to accept. She is an all to giving person which sets her up to be taken advantage of.I try to tell her not to be so giving to people she has only recently met but she dives right in. Then ends up wondering why the person does not respond the way she does or they wrong her and she wonders what she did wrong. I think it is the Nice factor that leds her down the road to be hurt in the end. If people were more cautious with others before just diving in head first they may find out sooner than later if the person is going to be a positive or negative in their life. There will always be the uncontrollable factor in any relationship and thats when you move forward and forget the past. I mean the past is over done fini so why look that way? learn from it and move on. Happy Holidays All

"Have any tips for those of us who seem to be reading people wrong?"

Turn them right side up?

>Dark Moose slinks away, shameless smart ass that he is<

:0)

Ah, I've been having similar feelings/issues over the last couple of years too. I felt like I was the only one who had these issues for a long time. I'm also starting to wonder if it is the "nice" factor too. An ex often tells me I'm the nicest person he's ever known but it seems he'd rather hang around with not-so-nice people.This puts me in the middle of confusion city! It's hard to be not-so-nice when you really are nice, genetically or something. I'm not sure how to judge who will be good or bad for me early on but I'm training myself to not be afraid of casting a friend/relationship aside if it really isn't working for me. As an adult it seems like new friends are few and far between but they come along eventually. Just keep moving forwards. It sounds like you really do know how to decide what is right for you in the long run. Just be yourself.

I'm a very good judge of character. I assume everyone sucks and then... very occasionally... I'm wrong. Have a good day eh!

As a rule, people change incrementally, one decision leading to another. You've misjudged some people lately? No big deal, provided this is a short term issue rather than something that's been occuring for decades.

I have actually begun my New Year asking myself this very same question...
Voxpop u have a point...i may sound bitchy and judemental..but I think it is safer to assume that everyone sux...then u'll be happy when u meet those(the few among us) who prove u wrong.

it hurts me worse to find out someone I expected to be cool is um! NOT as cool as i expected...rather than finding out someone i thought was a loser is actually cool as hell...