Exactly! It makes you wonder about the validity of that whole "power of positive thinking" stuff, that you can just decide to be done and poof! you're done. I always think, "OK, now I'm going to be rich" and then breathlessly await my piles of cash ... but nothing ever happens. Drat it.

Silliness aside, this stage is a good stage. I've been in it for about three years now and it's productive as hell, and very fun. (And interestingly enough, I did find someone who is just as you described, without even looking -- maybe that's when you're ready? Hard to say.) I'm starting to think maybe it's the next step toward being a grown-up ... and now that I've said the dread G-word, I must go play UT and listen to some Germs before I become dull dull DULL. Adios!