Boody oath, Bonnie, did you actually read those rules? You should worry constantly about losing your attractiveness, don't ever "nag" him (that is, express opinions or needs), and if he acts like a total jerk, give him "space" and complete forgiveness? Were they written by a 1950's housewife? A masochist with no self-esteem? The ladies who wrote The Rules?

If you have to work that hard, it wasn't meant to be, and the boy is probably not worth it. btw, I was a late bloomer but have enjoyed 8 wonderful unmarried years with my guy. Be yourself, and love, if it is love, is easy.