*Your* personal assessment of someone else's character is important, I'm sure, in some contexts, but I see no *relevance* to this context, that is this comment board. I don't think the discussion of an absent third party's personal life or assumed characteristics or character is what people come here to read. Again, relevance and respect for others, however difficult in some situations, have not often been a problem on these comment boards, and I suggest as I sometimes do that they not become one. There are I'm sure forums for working out personal problems among individuals, and perhaps even for tearing down an absent third party's character, but this is not one.