PS. You don't have to tell the whole community. Just a few reasonable members who aren't in for the gossip. But i think that there are community standards that we should all uphold to protect each other from harm and these warrant community action But you may want to clear this action with your Dominant.

It sounds as though you are thoe one being smeared if this person is outing you to your emplyers etc. and there is nothing wrong getting respected members of the community to mediate for you, in my opinion.

alex,

My former Dominant is unwilling to discuss the matter with me. My current partner and I don't have much of a plan to handle this. I have discussed the matter with a well respected Dominant in the community and the indiscreet, full name posts had stopped for awhile but started again. I didn't want to make a big deal of this in the community because I felt that it would damage his reputation.

I have no desire to smear him, but he is really making an effort to damage my life. He is active in the local community. I just want the nonsense to stop. Maybe the answer IS to bring the issue forward to the leaders of my local organization.

My blog is gone. The fun I got out of it is far outweighed by the privacy issues it creates.

I appreciate your thoughts and ideas.

In Leather,
cloud watcher

Have you spoken with your former Dominant and asked him/her to stop?
Does Your current Dominant have a plan on handling this? Do you have permission to take action on this from you Dominant?
Is your former Dominant a part of the local community? If so then i suggest that you talk to members of that community and see if you can get some peers to talk some sense into the Dominant.
Secondly, i suggest you make your blog private to friends only or speak with the blog management to have Your former Dominant blocked from posting on your blog or ask them what legal options you have.
Good luck

I need help. I know that the readers of the board have a lot of experience and wisdom to share.

A previous Dominant of mine is meddling in my present life and continuously revealing my given name as well as my partners full given name in his blog. He has even made comments to my partner's very vanilla blog. The comments revealed very intimate details of my life with my previous Dominant. By making the comment, he left a link back to his own blog which reveals even more personal information about my life. He has outed me repeatedly to my blog reading friends.

In addition to this, he contacted my partner's employer regarding our personal life. I can only assume that it was an effort to damage my partners career possibilities and credibility. The Dominant in question is not willing to discuss the matter with me in person. I am not willing to discuss this matter by email for fear that the email itself will be made public. I am at a loss as to how I might be able to keep my personal life private and move on. Any ideas?

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FYI

>From: "Catherine Gross" <notnilla@nyc.rr.com>
>Subject: [Leather_boy] Fundraising Contest for NOLA
>
>I asking for personal assistance in getting the word out about
>this. Please forward to all your lists. We really need to help
>these folks, they have suffered.
>
>FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE:
>Please distribute freely Media Inquiries:
>September, 2005 Victoria Gayton:
>victoriag530@alltel.net
> General Inquiries:
> Catherine Gross:
>notnilla@nyc.rr.com
>
>FUNDRAISING CONTEST ORGANIZED TO HELP 2 LEATHER CLUBS IN NEW ORLEANS
>
>Catherine Gross (FetishAuctioneer.com), Ms. Victoria, and Viola
>Johnson are sponsoring a fundraiser to help members of the New
>Orleans leather community. So many have lost everything in the wake
>of Katrina's devastating impact, and we want to help them rebuild
>their lives and communities. While many individuals and
>organizations are contributing their time, money and support to the
>relief effort, it is our hope that a concerted group effort will
>enable us to offer even more to extended members of our leather
>family who are in desperate need.
>
>This fundraiser will be in the form of a contest, which will be open
>to clubs, events and e-mail lists. The group contributing the
>largest collective donation will win a basket stocked full of erotic
>goodies from Fetish Auctioneer, valued at $250.00. All funds
>collected will be split 50/50 between two major leather clubs in New
>Orleans: Lords of Leather and N.OB.L.E. Both clubs are still
>attempting to locate all of their members, and they assume, due to
>the location of their event and/or play spaces, that they have lost
>everything; in addition, some members of both clubs have lost
>everything they own. Funds will be distributed by the respective
>officers of both clubs to those members with the greatest need. The
>contest will run from September 7, 2005 through October 20, 2005.
>
>Donations will be accepted through a special Pay Pal account.
>Everyone donating is asked to list their e-mail list name, event
>name or local club in the "message" section. Totals will be
>monitored and tallied by Catherine's assistant, Jen, via an Excel
>spreadsheet which will be updated daily.
>
>For information about how to make a donation, to see current
>donations, or to get details on the prize basket being donated by
>Fetish Auctioneer, visit:
><http://www.fetishauctioneer.com/nolacharit...t;http://www.fetish
auctioneer.com/nolacharity/nola.htm
>The winner of the basket will be announced on October 21, 2005, via
>press release.
>
>Our club brothers and sisters in New Orleans are in need of our help
>and support, so please help us get the word out by distributing this
>release to any e-mail lists or other contacts you might have!
>
>Catherine Gross
><Http://www.BDSMClasses.com>Http://www.BDSMClasses.com
>Http://www.Fetishauctioneer.com
><Http://www.SELeatherFest.com>Http://www.SELeatherFest.com




Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take --
But by the moments that take our breath away.

Thank you all very much for your messages. I had replied twice offlist to Traci Gary's email, first explaining my situation and the second asking if she'd recieved the first, and heard nothing. I was surprised after her offer to give my email to two people she thought would be interested in discussing my issues, that she would suddenly stop writing.
I now realize, after some testing, that my email is being a bit flaky lately. Beyond that, I can't even get the list to load to reply directly from site. So, I want you to know that I appreciate your responses and will get back to you as soon as I can get this mess straightened out. I
Now I'm curious to see if this mail will go through. We'll see.

Thank you,

Wolf Moon


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Your topic of non-sexual Ownership.....is a very difficult one for me. Therefore it didnt appeal, that is not to say other topics you might want to discuss wouldnt. i am not my Owners lover...we do not have a romantic relationship. She does however Own my sex & all else.
monica
Owned by Sharrin

Your topic of non-sexual Ownership.....is a very difficult one for me. Therefore it didnt appeal, that is not to say other topics you might want to discuss wouldnt.
monica

I had responded to the original post, and had heard nothing past that - I had assumed that you had found others to help you with your search for guidance. Did I miss something, or possibly miss a post here? If so, I am sorry ... I try to stay on top of email correspondence at least every couple of days, but sometimes I miss one here and there. My Norton's tends to be a little overzealous now and then, too, and stuff in the "spam" folder doesn't get any attention.

If you had written to me, please accept my apology, and resend your original email if you're still looking for guidance.

I am very sorry ...

Respectfully,

Traci


Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take --
But by the moments that take our breath away.

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Dear Wolf Moon,

i apologize that no one responded to your post -- the posts from this list usually come to my email box, and then i alert Master Jim to them for Him (or me) to respond. i see several posts here that i've never seen before so i can only assume there's a glitch in the system somewhere. And as i am not aware of any private email from you, i'm afraid we've been the victims of the black hole of the Internet -- i don't know about anyone else, but i have a complete love/hate relationship it.

Master Jim or i do try to respond in some way to each post fairly quickly, but sometimes our travel schedule and other committments interfere. i'll also admit that the number of requests we receive makes it difficult for us to participate in too many extended email discussions, although again, He and i do try to respond as best we can.

Master Jim and i always are grateful for the others on the list who offer their knowledge and support, as Traci Gary did.

Again, i am sorry you did not receive a response to your post.

In service,
marsha
slave to Master Jim

Well, after our initial mailing and your kind response off list, and then hearing nothing from you in response to two different mailings, I can only assume the worst.

I will not bother anyone here again.

Sincerely disappointed,
Wolf