Im really sorry to hear what happened. Hope you are doing better Bonnie!

yo mates wat u all on bout

It sucks to break up but atleast you are past the pre-breakup stage. (When you know everything is terribly wrong but you are too afraid of the unknown to break it off) I am currently in pre-breakup stage with my boyfriend that I live with. It is a very tense, uncomfortable and emotional time. I think I will be relieved in away when it is finally over. I can get back to being ME.
You will be much happier when you find your new cool home where you call shots! Best Wishes!

I'm sorry about the bad news as well, Bonnie, and I hope that things start looking up very soon. In any event, we're all thinking of you and trying to send good vibes.

hiya bonnie grrl, so sorry to hear. i wish i could say something to cheer you up, but it is a rather dreadful time and i'll bet a break-up doesn't help much. i think music helps in any situation, so i would continue to listen to that joy divison and the cure and don't feel bad about doing so. when i am feeling whitty i will write as i have been following grrl.com since i was in college (i believe 98 or 99) and you have given me great laughs, i only wish i could give at least one small crack of a smile to you at this time to pay you back. hang in there! at least you have your pup to make you smile. they are the best!

Ooo. I am very sorry.

Just remembering a similar breakup makes my heart go cold. You sound strong; don't let this take your spirit. Even though it doesn't feel temporary, it is.

It sucks to be lonely, but you'll honestly never be alone. I had to tell myself that one for a few years. It works because it's true in the end. It sure does suck in the meantime though.

Ack, honey... I am so sorry. I just went through this in November, *5 year relationship*, moving, dropping out of (part*time) school, trying to explain to the cat, ... Yes, I was an abismal sobbing wreck and yes, it was the best thing that ever happened for me. This is what worked in the end: I listend to a lot of Cake, Everclear, and the Decendents. Nice cynical break up music (I regress severly in my musical tastes when unhappy). And then I spent exactly $200. I bought (1) $80. Oncidium Orchid hybrid with five spikes that smells like oranges and cloves, (1) $30. Korean BBQ dinner with lots of Soju and two wickedly brilliant and funny girlfriends; which lead to a late night stop at the Pleasure Chest where I spent $80. for (1) the absolute Cadilac of vibrators. Worked for me.

I think the best thing for you to do is think about yourself!! Take care of yourself and keep yourself busy! And mush your very cutie-pie monster!!!

Bonnie,

Don't worry you're not a freak. You will move on, it just wasn't meant to be. The one will never let go and he'll know what a great person you are. Take care of yourself and your pup.

btrflyquaill

Bonnie,
Don't worry love, everyone knows the crippling pain of being left out in the cold *(Eerie sad depressing place)* we like to call dumpsville. Sooner than later I asure you things will lift back up off the ground and you'll be a wonderfully giddy bachelorette or even meet some ravishing new beau, in due time dahling. For now just hold on to the love that your doggy gives you and the joy of being an independent woman. That alone will help you get through. Don't forget to do some plant mothering aswell.
Love ya
*RiotRobyn*

Wow.. reading your entry was eerily reasuring, since, as with you, that is my curse as well. Just recently my boyfriend of 1 and half years broke up with me for a similar reason.. So I hear you on that one, and this is not the first time for me either. However, I'm a big fan of your site and would think that if there was no hope for you finding your penguin (since they mate for life, you see) there'd be no hope for the rest of us. I understand it hurts now, and I'm very hurt myself, but in time it won't feel that way. Be good to yourself and realize that sometimes the mind gets over someone before the heart does, and that can be confusing. It's ok to have a little bit of lag time between the two, though.
 Someone once said this : " it's cliche, but there are lots of fish in the sea, and it you waste time chasing the one that got away, you could miss that perfect catch.
Getting over someone is really hard, but you are a strong woman and I'm sure you can do anything you want. If he doesn't see all the wonderful things you have to offer, fudge*(only it wasn't fudge) him. There is someone out there who will, trust me!"
 Pretty straightforward, and I liked it. the same is true for you! I'll keep checking back, until then, don't give up the hope! :) xo.

Hey Bonnie,

Can't say I have any advice about breakups, but hope you will feel better soon. You still rock.

if you have any good getting over relationship advice...or just want to tell me i'm not a freak...i'm all ears...