Why do we all so hung up on what other people think about us anyway. Is it because we're nice people, which makes us way better than them anyway. If so then we should end up happier and more sorted out than they'll ever be...but I want it now!

I am being bullied in school I wish I could kill myself but nobody would care I feel like im just a waste of every ones time.

somebody please cheer me up! do u ever get the feeling that nobody loves you in this world? well, thats how i feel right now :( wahhhhhhhhh!!!!!! i wanna go sailing...

Hey all of you! The past few months have been pure queer for me. My best friend and I break up..many tears shed. But things got so much better. See, my dad recently lost his job so both of my parents were out of work. They both found jobs recently. My best friend has been giving me so much crap ever since we broke up...but I can't ever stop loving him. And I never have..We all move onto better days! Live, love, and eat chocolate..Geez, I feel like the optimist in this crowd. *Shudders* Be happy! Don't grin and bare it. BE HAPPY!!

Hello everyone, I'm new here...just thought I'd say 'hi!'
I've had a bit of a bad day,had a big row with my blokey (whom I love VERY VERY much!) and I'm feelin an ickle bit sorry for myself! To make myself feel better I spent 40 very punishing minutes in the gym....then ate a big bar of chocolate!!! Bliss!!! I love to give advice so anyone feeling down...let me know!! lots of love xxx

Hello everyone, I just brokw up with a dude that was totally a loser drugdealer, no ambition and treated me like poop. So this is the question why am I sittin here feelin like I want to jump out of the window of my office on the 24th floor?

I have had a terrible week I asked this girl who I really liked out and she said no she told me I was a loser and not worth her time, I now this is not the worst problem but I feel like no one ever is going ot like me and I am worthless

I'm sorry to hear about everyone's problems-mine are insignificant in comparison. I'm having a horrible week and i don't know how to snap out of it. I recently fell for someone on the internet and i think the knowledge that it will never work is getting to me and I have no one to talk to about it. If you feel that I am being stupid falling for this guy then please tell me, it might help me come to terms with it.
Thanks,
Jen

This message is for David J.
Sorry to be so harsh, but this has to be said-- get over it. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, now everyone probably thinks I'm a rotton person, but it's true. If you don't have a girlfriend, do something about it. Be a romantic. Sweep 'em off their feet. :)
Having a girlfriend or boyfriend is not everything in life, trust me, I know. There are better things out there for all of you who are going through breakups. Just remember-- you define your own life, not your boyfriend or girlfriend. Hugs to all who need one,
                   KeepTheFaith

relationships are nothin but trouble..

just do your own thing and make a lot of friends.
If you still want constant love and affection, get a puppy...

I hate my life I have never had a girldfriend even though I am realy funny and smart no one has ever liked me and I hate the fact that I am such a loser all I wish was that I had a girl friend

I'm feeling sad and need a cheering up. I'm currently quiting a job in the Virgin Islands and moving back home. I've been living there for six months now, but it just isn't what I had expected. I feel as though I have failed because I will go home without a job. but what can you do.

I'm sorry your feeling so blue, but things will change for the better. Without pain in life and challenges, life wouldn't be such a success. What I mean by that is through our painful experiances we grow into better people and learn more about ourselves. This could be a blessing in disguise and I believe everything happens for a reason. Hang in their and know that we all go through times of sadness. Smile and know that you are loved.

I am sooo sad - am married, but we sleep in separate beds, my teenage son is failing school and I am full time employed and go through a Master Program, while also helping at the local animal shelter. Now I met a man, he is an entertainer - very charming, kinda wakes up the passion in me and makes me feel better. But I sense he is a heart breaker, although hew seems to have high respect for me. He is leaving for his summer tour next week and will be gone for 3 months - so sad because he really cheered me up. :(

This week I've decided to leave my husband, sell the house and live on my own but not until I finish my semester which is in June. Sigh - it makes me blue to think about it all and how hard life is in times. Are there any motivational writers here who can keep my tears from running?

Im really sorry to hear what happened. Hope you are doing better Bonnie!

yo mates wat u all on bout

It sucks to break up but atleast you are past the pre-breakup stage. (When you know everything is terribly wrong but you are too afraid of the unknown to break it off) I am currently in pre-breakup stage with my boyfriend that I live with. It is a very tense, uncomfortable and emotional time. I think I will be relieved in away when it is finally over. I can get back to being ME.
You will be much happier when you find your new cool home where you call shots! Best Wishes!

I'm sorry about the bad news as well, Bonnie, and I hope that things start looking up very soon. In any event, we're all thinking of you and trying to send good vibes.

hiya bonnie grrl, so sorry to hear. i wish i could say something to cheer you up, but it is a rather dreadful time and i'll bet a break-up doesn't help much. i think music helps in any situation, so i would continue to listen to that joy divison and the cure and don't feel bad about doing so. when i am feeling whitty i will write as i have been following grrl.com since i was in college (i believe 98 or 99) and you have given me great laughs, i only wish i could give at least one small crack of a smile to you at this time to pay you back. hang in there! at least you have your pup to make you smile. they are the best!

Ooo. I am very sorry.

Just remembering a similar breakup makes my heart go cold. You sound strong; don't let this take your spirit. Even though it doesn't feel temporary, it is.

It sucks to be lonely, but you'll honestly never be alone. I had to tell myself that one for a few years. It works because it's true in the end. It sure does suck in the meantime though.

Ack, honey... I am so sorry. I just went through this in November, *5 year relationship*, moving, dropping out of (part*time) school, trying to explain to the cat, ... Yes, I was an abismal sobbing wreck and yes, it was the best thing that ever happened for me. This is what worked in the end: I listend to a lot of Cake, Everclear, and the Decendents. Nice cynical break up music (I regress severly in my musical tastes when unhappy). And then I spent exactly $200. I bought (1) $80. Oncidium Orchid hybrid with five spikes that smells like oranges and cloves, (1) $30. Korean BBQ dinner with lots of Soju and two wickedly brilliant and funny girlfriends; which lead to a late night stop at the Pleasure Chest where I spent $80. for (1) the absolute Cadilac of vibrators. Worked for me.

I think the best thing for you to do is think about yourself!! Take care of yourself and keep yourself busy! And mush your very cutie-pie monster!!!

Bonnie,

Don't worry you're not a freak. You will move on, it just wasn't meant to be. The one will never let go and he'll know what a great person you are. Take care of yourself and your pup.

btrflyquaill

Bonnie,
Don't worry love, everyone knows the crippling pain of being left out in the cold *(Eerie sad depressing place)* we like to call dumpsville. Sooner than later I asure you things will lift back up off the ground and you'll be a wonderfully giddy bachelorette or even meet some ravishing new beau, in due time dahling. For now just hold on to the love that your doggy gives you and the joy of being an independent woman. That alone will help you get through. Don't forget to do some plant mothering aswell.
Love ya
*RiotRobyn*

Wow.. reading your entry was eerily reasuring, since, as with you, that is my curse as well. Just recently my boyfriend of 1 and half years broke up with me for a similar reason.. So I hear you on that one, and this is not the first time for me either. However, I'm a big fan of your site and would think that if there was no hope for you finding your penguin (since they mate for life, you see) there'd be no hope for the rest of us. I understand it hurts now, and I'm very hurt myself, but in time it won't feel that way. Be good to yourself and realize that sometimes the mind gets over someone before the heart does, and that can be confusing. It's ok to have a little bit of lag time between the two, though.
 Someone once said this : " it's cliche, but there are lots of fish in the sea, and it you waste time chasing the one that got away, you could miss that perfect catch.
Getting over someone is really hard, but you are a strong woman and I'm sure you can do anything you want. If he doesn't see all the wonderful things you have to offer, fudge*(only it wasn't fudge) him. There is someone out there who will, trust me!"
 Pretty straightforward, and I liked it. the same is true for you! I'll keep checking back, until then, don't give up the hope! :) xo.

Hey Bonnie,

Can't say I have any advice about breakups, but hope you will feel better soon. You still rock.

if you have any good getting over relationship advice...or just want to tell me i'm not a freak...i'm all ears...