Eat dinner together. Stay interested in schoolwork. Ask about their music. Argue politics. Give jobs around the house. Talk don't tell. Listen don't interrupt. Trust R ratings. Encourage sports and other activities. Attend 'em. Meet the friends. Support the teachers. Avoid the two big minefields: too much freedom and not enough. And maybe they won't pull a Mendendez on you or anyone else. I've failed many times in every category. But I know the goal. Yours truly, polonius haas.